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On Separation – Please allow me to be emotional


By Salma Daoud

January 9, 2011 - At 36, having lived most of my life under a totalitarian regime of the worst kind, I’ve gotten used to my individuality being subdued, my personal rights being violated and my dreams being hijacked.

Living abroad for a substantial period of time, I’ve always been in situations where I had to defend a home land that was seemingly only in my head, and to do that against all the ugliness broadcast on satellite channels, of girls being whipped publicly, political opposition being tortured in ghost houses and the thousands raped and killed in Darfur, not to mention the embarrassing dancing president, I had a winning card which is our diversity.

I used to brag endlessly about the languages we have. The different skin colors you’ll find in one family and the beauty of the cultural and ethnic difference we enjoyed (or should have while it lasted).

Now, standing at the dawn of separation, I feel cheated.

How can I rebuild my entire sentiment at this age to love a new country and call it my own?

How can I pretend that nothing is going to change when I know there will be less or perhaps no beautiful black skinned girls with polished skin and stubborn hair walking tall and proud in short skirts that show off their strong legs, in the hate ridden streets of Khartoum... strong men with beautifully carved muscles and callused hands endlessly working on building houses they will never live in... old women with face scars that tell stories so profound they knock the breath out of my lungs... smartly dressed young men with determination in their tone and a story behind their hard earned success.

People whose mere existence toned down my prejudice, taught me how to love color and appreciate difference, and made me a better person..

Southern Sudanese that remind me daily that there is indeed a different perspective!

Salma Daoud is a Marketing Professional. She can be reached at sesedaoud@gmail.com


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  • 12 January 2011 06:23, by Ahmed

    We ill all be, Most northerners are for not united Sudan because of economic gain but its because of the southerner Sudanese people, The NCP doesn’t represent what northerners are like. Infect this referendum going on in the South will help the us get rid of that shitty government we have. The NCP is more scared of Al Turabi and other northerner political parties then they are scared of the SPLM or West. If northerner political party overthrows him he knows it ill be the end of him and his family and his people.

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  • 12 January 2011 07:26, by Bol Deng

    Dear Salma,

    Thanks for your great article. Without denial,the people of Northern Sudan has forgotten that they should have encouraged democracy in Sudan ,so that every citizens live with equality and erase their Arab mentality against the South.

    This problem has been the reason why South Sudanese struggled for many years but the North politicians and their most North Sudanese failed to understand the issue that will cause regrete at the longrun. This has never been a suprise to South Sudanese because they understood North Arabs ever since.

    Unfortunately, some Northerners received the arguments and anger of Southerners valid but this recognition fall short because we South Sudanese should have seen the North Sudanese protesting their government for the immoral standards or obligations that they were doing to the people of South Sudanese.

    Yes, not every Arab North are bad but i personally think most of North Sudanese/Arab had completely missed points that should connect dots in the Country.

    The Southerners has made their mind very clear that unity with North has been acursed and they must stay away for good.

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    • 12 January 2011 13:46, by Ahmed

      Protest? Where? in the NCP backyard?? You must not know the NISS or the NCP will my friend

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    • 14 January 2011 16:26, by CHUOL RUEI

      Thanks alot brother Salma, I really appreciated your article, our norther brothers had already failed to excircised the real democratic and equality in sudan. Because, they fail to do it so we have gone for good. Equality and justice will be practied without northerners involment. Our long time struggle yield fruitfull result

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  • 12 January 2011 08:04, by Martin Garang Aher

    Dear Salma Daoud,

    Indeed, you have been flabbergasted by misrules in Khartoum, demeaning of the less fortunate but equally cradles of the land of Sudan, isolation of the masses and southerners in specific, arrogance and pomposity of Arabs that had continued to monopolize power in Sudan; a situation that have thrown Sudanese cultural complexities into shambles today.

    However, let me not assume that you are shedding crocodile tears because you will miss the workers, the beggars, the vanquished, people whose Sudanese law will never stand with.
    I hope you meant not this but that...

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  • 12 January 2011 11:45, by australian

    The northern people are very confused. They profoundly misunderstand the reasons for the trouble in their country.
    But there is no doubt they have become used to the southern people living among them and often secretly admire them - or not so secretly, like this woman.
    I have written elsewhere that the northern people would be heartbroken if they lost the south. It is their most fascinating family leaving, and they are now stuck just with each other - and their beloved religion which they prefer to anything in the world.
    So sad.

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